I’m not really into New Year resolutions anymore. However, I still find myself reflecting on 2017 and where there can be improvement. 2017 was the year that I became a mom. It was filled with changes in every aspect of my life. My daughter is almost 6 months and I just now am starting to feel that I have found somewhat of a balance. I have been reading “The Desire Map” by Danielle Laporte. It focuses on creating goals based on how you feel. It has been a great read and thanks to this book I’m focusing more on how I want to feel each day and what I need to do in order for that to become a reality. Like most moms, I want to feel “put together.” I want to be more organized and have somewhat of a balance because this makes me happy. Little things definitely go a long way. Rather than focusing on my “resolutions” I’m focusing on the little things that make this mama a little more happier; or you can just say that my resolution overall is happiness.
To start off, I bought a planner. I know it sounds so cliché but I am so tired of forgetting things. I’m writing down every single thing. I’ve written down my friends birthdays, all my plans, my appointments, Giselle’s appointments, things I need to get, posts ideas, dates of posting, my spendings, my bills, my budget, my goals, and more. After having Giselle, I found myself forgetting things easily so writing down everything has made such a difference so far. I know that there are apps for everything I just mentioned, but the routine of writing everything and having to actually open the planner every day just works a lot better for me.
I’m also trying to overcome my biggest obstacle in the household: the laundry. I want to be that woman who has that amazing organized closet and planned outfits. I am nowhere near that. I hate doing laundry and I hate organizing our clothes even more. I’m motivating myself to revamp our closets and remain organized. I went and bought new cute hampers for us and I also am on the lookout for the perfect shoe shelf for my favorite heels. I’m hoping this is just the beginning. I’ve also set a schedule for organizing/cleaning so I don’t overwhelm myself with one full day of cleaning. I’m testing laundry Friday evenings. Saturday mornings I’m vacuuming and cleaning the bathrooms. Sundays I can focus on the kitchen and living room.
As I mentioned when I spoke about the planner, I’m writing down my bills and budget because this year I plan to be a lot smarter with my finances. I’ve written down my fixed expenses along with the necessary expenses that fluctuate. I’ve made a budget for the fun stuff such as shopping for Giselle and me, eating out, trips etc. I’ve also written down goals and am saving to reach those goals. I am writing down my balances each week and how much I should save in order to reach “x” goal to help me stay focused and motivated.
The most important thing I am trying to focus on in regards to my happiness is self-care. Everything I mentioned already is about taking care of myself. If my house is clean, my finances are in place, and I’m on top of the things that need to get done I am taking care of myself. All of these things make up my positive environment where I am able to eat healthy, sleep enough, and exercise. I am taking more time to myself and doing things that I love; from trips with Giselle, to hair appointments, to shopping trips, to even just a longer hot bath, I will create the time slot to do it.
2018 will be full of joy and blessings. All of these things are just the building blocks. Everything I spoke about is just steps towards the best version of myself because my daughter deserves no less than that. I’ve learned that if the bottom layer is unstable, you cannot build on top of it. Here’s to 2018!
Mayra is a 28 year old, full time working, first time mommy. Her princess Giselle is almost 6 months old. Mayra shares her motherhood journey through her blog, Giselle y Mama and her social media platforms. She shares her details of her natural birth, her breastfeeding/pumping experience, her favorite mommy & baby products, and much more. You can also follow her on her instagram: @mdalisa